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Resonance


A moment in which two things vibrate or behave in similar fashion under similar circumstances. Atleast this is what the books say.

But if we leave the scientific part for the scientists, then resonance can only be thought of as seeing someone with characteristics similar to us. They perform in a particular way, in a particular situation with a particular precision, almost as if they were  copying our own style. We find it  fulfilling  and energetic to find someone with a similar experience and view of life. This fact, alone increases the chances of friendship with the other  person.

It's a common knowledge that we like people who try to listen and understand our needs and life. But when we see the other person going through the same thing, it stirs a little bit of our emotional part and if possible, we try to help the other person. Irrespective of the outcome, our action solidates a bond of friendship that has the absolute level of understanding. I believe these coincidental friendships have a stronger chance of bearing the brunt of the latest friendship protocols, where friendships are for miniscule things and matters, and if nothing else, satisfaction of needs.

People who make bonds after watching the other guy go through the same thing underestimate  the level of similarities in between them and evaluate the other person very quickly . They end up being in a relation of sharing and caring mutually, but when other person's life starts to unravel in front of them & the amount of baddies turns out to be more than the amount of goodies , they just shirk their responsibilities and walk away.

The environment becomes of full of dejection as the people once involved feel that they could have been good friends and put the blame on the other person for pretending and lying to be someone they are not. And then they walk away to repeat the whole cycle all over again and in the process, accumulating stress and dejection.

What was their fault to face such problems?

My answer: Patience and Lack of proper understanding

Had they been just cordial towards each other and patient towards each other's flaws while understanding their good , the friendship would have survived. But who has the time to waste time and energy to know someone who they (sarcasm missile launched) will eventually leave their life in times of turmoil and need. Having a proper and long lasting friendship requires time to check the level of personality resonance between people. It is the reason, we are able to make strong satisfying relationships that last a long time.

But in today's time when the present satisfaction is given a priority over long term satisfaction, then the bonds formed between people are also of the same nature , i. e they hold a value for a short period of time only...

It is an urgent requirement of the present generation, but no one actually is attentive enough, in the same to acknowledge their own need.

I hope they learn their lesson before their time runs out...
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P For Poetry



Poetry is...
we both together 
Writing saga's 
on each other's soul and
are listening them through
each other's heart.

Poetry is...
to forget
forgetfullness
and to think of
what's completely left out
to gather it again.

Poetry is...
intersection of you and me
intersession of our separateness
interjection from others
interruption for a short period
all happening together

Poetry is...
the journal of 
sea animal
living on land
dreaming of flying
high in the air

Poetry is..
tying-untying
of ritual science

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When you love more than you should...


Love
Taking care of someone with the deepest intentions you can ever have for someone. You keep worrying, Fussing about their health and well-being, all the time. You protect them and do everything in your power to save them from anything harmful in their vicinity.

Basically, the one you love is your 'God'... And in no way you will let anyone hurt them,  would you? 

You believe in their  potential so much that your own potential looks likes a stepping stone for them,An expendable source, in other words. But the most important of all is your will to sacrifice anything and everything for them...


But with love comes the expectations....After all the good can't exist without the evil.You start expecting that if you are putting in the efforts,  if not rewarded ,  at least they will notice your effort. (Even if it is for once.)


But when the expectations are not met,  they become sour and turn poison ☠ in your head. Suddenly,  there is a battle raging on in your mind: B/w the love you have for that person and the expectations that  hurt your feelings....

I don't know who the hell said that good  always wins because it is wrong....because it's the smart ass that takes away the win.

How you choose to respond depends on your nature.... If you are forgiving and kind and most important of all PATIENT, the light side in you(The love), it is able to hold on for an extended period of time, but due to no reciprocation of your efforts,  dark side, the hate wins the war

If you are a person who has characteristics like being adamant or impatient, the one wanting results instantaneously, the dark side(the hate) wins outright because your persona complements your hate for that person.

However by some miracle, the person starts to do,  what you were expecting from them. They start responding to you in a manner similar to yours. My friend, this is the best case scenario as love will have won the war in your head & never in your lifetime will you find your soul more full of love and affection.

The venom of expectations can be  dealt in many ways.

1. Wait it out and counter it with anti-bodies: The continuous exposure to situations like this makes you immune to feelings.

The unemet expectations always hurt, but then you already knew that And this keeps on going till you are  left insensitive to both the hate or love. You become the epitome of negativity,  not caring much about self-confidence or self or anyone else,  for that matter.  You,  in your own eyes are expendable and replaceable,  unworthy of having anyone they want to have.  This is the lowest anyone can go...

2. Treat it out with anti-venom...The people that matter in your life, convience you in a positive way to remove expectations or tell you good things about the person you are head over heels for, this helps you to confront the hate that keeps swelling up in your mind.  But this doesn't end the battle, It just becomes a stalemate. And it heads towards an end,  but very slowly and solely depending on the people you are trusting right now...

3. Take a deep breath and focus in the moment you are living in....and let the person you hold so dear, The one who whom you consider your 'God',  let them go. Both from memory and life....This ends the battle outright because the love and the hate for that person is dependent on that person...If you let go of everything related to that person,  you defeat both the love for that person as well as hate for the same person with the serenity and peace within you. This way hurts because you have to change your thinking... But it doesn't leave any collateral damage of wasted time or unmet expectations.

Personally,  the 3rd point of view is the toughest to follow,  for it requires the power of heart and mind to work together,  and many are unable to do so,  for they lack what is required. But believe me,  if you are able to do it,  you will have success in not only in this field,  but in every aspect of life.  You,  my friend,  would have understood how to accept reality for what it is. You would have learned to accept defeat,  but still have the resources to get up again for round 2.

What else could be good,  if you come out of a situation,  better and more experienced,  than before.
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Still Standing...


Here I stand, all alone again
At the same place where I was left
In a room full of tears and broken dreams
All thrown like debris,
Stand all with all the crushed hopes.
Tears sparkling on the silvered tiles
Flowing continuously for someone who is away miles,
My face hidden by my hands
No courage to take a stand.
Clasp of rising smoke from the fumes
Settling me down as sand dunes
Falling under my own sky,
Too alone, I myself cannot listen my cry.
Thinking of yesterday's peace
Only chaos holds me close
I am all watered by teardrops.
Raising as high as winter crops.
Yet in the depths of
This emptiness and commotion
I come to realize that I spite of all,
I am still standing.
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Thinking About Purpose

I laid down on my bed, all alone, missing someone, and thinking about the sole purpose of life. How life gets its purpose and how people get a reason to live.

Many questions keep on having a race with each other in my mind. What I do and what I really want to do? Why do I work? Because I have to earn money or because I love my work? Why do I need to earn money? Because I want to live a happy life or just because I have to look good in my society? Or because I have mortgage to pay or feed the children or to buy clothes and food? But whats so good about that. If I do not have any mortgage to pay or what if my children leave the home when I grow old? Why I am working then? When I am spending my days and nights doing a work that I even did not like to do? Then what is the purpose of my life?


When I stood up, I realized that I have no purpose in my life. I have had no goal to work for that will keep me going. I have no one with me to help with through my days and nights. No one to talk to or tell my feelings to. I have nothing that I can point to and say, "it is worth doing..."

I am just looking for places to visit for which I don't have enough money, I don't know why? I am daily going to work, I don't know why? I just count the 5 days of the week for the weekend to come, I don't know why? I think for the weekends but I have no one to spend it worth, I don't know why?

Why all these happens to ,e? Because I don't have any purpose in my life. Then why am I here? What I am doing here? I don't know what I am doing and why am I doing it at all.

So, how do you give your life a purpose? Do you have some secrets? Or are you all feeling like this but just do not want to accept it?
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